Why Coaching

You might feel okay as you are and wonder, why coaching? But have you ever questioned your thoughts and asked yourself where they come from, especially the negative thoughts that spoil our day and dampen our mood?

 

Here are a few everyday examples:

 

Unassuming thoughts like, “Why isn’t she calling me back? This is driving me crazy!” or “Why is that person driving so slowly in front of me?” are moments that are still manageable but nevertheless influence our lives. Or imagine you’re at work and suddenly receive a critical email from your boss. Your first thought might be, “I never do anything right.” This thought can burden us all day but actually has nothing to do with your boss. Or you plan a meeting with friends, and someone cancels at short notice. You immediately think, “They don’t really like me.”

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Such negative thought patterns can significantly burden our daily lives. Now, these thoughts don’t just randomly appear in our heads. Each person interprets every situation completely differently. One person can feel relaxed in a situation, thus having positive thoughts, while for another, the same situation can be difficult and challenging.

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All this begins with the interpretation of a situation. How the mind interprets a situation usually depends on what we have experienced in our past and childhood. Situations like, “Why isn’t she calling me back? This is driving me crazy!” are connected to a moment in childhood—perhaps you needed your mom, but she wasn’t there for you. Or, “Why is that person driving so slowly in front of me?” might stem from your family always being in a hurry. These are small moments but still influence our lives and the people around us.

Situations that influence us more are when we react so emotionally that we take out our emotions on others, jeopardize relationships, or when certain belief systems like, “It’s hard to earn money” or “I can’t trust my partner” determine our lives.

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All these subconscious thoughts are usually so present that we don’t even question them and accept them, saying, “That’s just how I am.” But you aren’t really like this; it’s just a past part of you, and your subconscious is full of these belief systems that we actually are not. Our mind is often so occupied that it deals more with the past than contributing to our well-being and future.

We constantly find ourselves in situations that trigger us, feel exposed to them, and react accordingly, believing everything our mind interprets.

 

So, what to do?

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If we fight against every thought, we won’t become happier, because we will lose the battle with the mind. This ends in judgment against ourselves and our past. However, it is possible, through various methods, to use these thoughts to integrate the past and leave it behind.

When we integrate the past, our mind becomes free. We create capacity that the mind uses to serve us and be a friend in everyday life. Instead of creating wild negative thoughts and ultimately lower emotions, it will generate thoughts that benefit us and help us in situations. We can concentrate more and do things that are important for our future. We will linger longer in positive emotions, thereby attracting more positive things into our lives. Please 

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As a result, you will, among other things:

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• Develop increased self-awareness and better understand why you react the way you do in certain situations.

• Dissolve negative beliefs that have held you back until now.

• Build healthier relationships, as you no longer act out of old patterns.

• Achieve professional and personal success, because you see more clearly what you really want and how to achieve it.

• Experience more joy and serenity, as you learn to be in the moment and not be led by negative thoughts.

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We become more authentic and find our true selves. Under all these patterns, we can explore what our true self is and allow ourselves to be more of who we are. Connected with this authentic self, we find more and more peace, as we no longer make ourselves wrong and don’t have to change for others.